Center: Akinyele, An American kid, born to an African parent, asked the question (photo).
There's a serious, and perhaps conundrum, question that some people may laugh at, but others, particularly African kids, wants the truth and nothing more than the truth. And the question is "why can't [my] African parent give me time to talk?" an American kid, born to an African parent, disclosed his hidden question in front of an audience filled with professors, elders, students, especially youth, and community leaders and members.
Such a question, however, should be reversed to when does the contention (argument) between a typical African parent—an old school African parent and African parents that still carry on their ways of being brought up— and their child (ren) ends"? This is the question that a lot of African children in the diaspora, including American and European children, who are born to a typical African parent, wants to know. And This question calls the attention of African parents (in Africa or abroad) and African scholars.
The question was brought up by Akinyele, an American kid born to African parent, during the Center For African Peace and Conflict Resolution (CAPCR) youth forum—which was held on Saturday, March 21, 2015. The CAPCR's Youth Forum was hosted by two brilliant, young and talented African ladies: Joan Gachuhi, as the host and Othelia Marwieh, as the co-host; and the theme of the forum was entitled "Embracing my African Heritage and Identify with Pride."
As the CAPCR’s youth forum carry on with it planned agenda—allowing anyone in the audience to either express themselves or ask a question, of which was the forum’s main objective/purpose—a 14-year-old African boy (American born), with the support from some of his friends that sat closed to him laugh as he, asked the question that soon became a heated debate at the forum: “"Why can’t [my] African parent give me time to talk"? In fact, the question ran the forum’s estimated time.
In response to the kid’s question, some typical African parents who happen to be at the forum soon answered the question with what they themselves learned and experienced, the hard way, from their parent when they were living with their parents. In fact, one parent suggested that he and his siblings never had the chance to either asked, seen or heard the words that were coming from their parents: “our eyes were always closed so as our ears because we expect beating from our parents if we dare try to ask them or explain to them.”
Another African parent (male) replied and narrated a similar situation with his kid: “Papa in [American] school, they don’t whip people,” he said his kid told him; and the father said he responded to his kid in a charming way: “ When you come in this house, this is an African house. I whip.”
On the contrast to other parents attacking the little boy, another parent, raise to a Nigerian parents in Nigeria, argued that parents themselves (both husband and wife) should never argue in front of their child (ren) which will signal a bad message; and it will encourage the kids that it is “alright” to engage in an argument with their parents. But as him flips the script to attach the kids, they felt not espoused by his lecture, that soon redirect kids’ misconception to never and never argue with their parents, and no matter what the situation.
However, during and after that parent’s speech, kids at the forum nod their heads in an agreement to him, as if he has scrutinized the cause and effect of kids wanting to argue with their parents.
But to answer the question, any typical African parents will NEVER and will NOT want their child (ren) to talk or explains while they, the parent, talk, PERIOD, which is considered as disrespect in many African heritage, either in an African’s traditional values or Western’s (civilize) values.
“SHUT UP,” which is the beginning of the argument, will be the only explanation that will calm kids. Kids responses are “I am SORRY,” and “I won’t do it again,” which is the end of the argument and no further explanation from kids.
On Sunday 23rd September 2012, the city of Lagos was definitely the place to be as some of the biggest names in the Nigerian entertainment industry gathered at the Eko Hotel & Suites, Victoria Island, Lagos, for Senator Ita Giwa‘s Foundation for Children of Bakassi’s charity event tagged The Red Ball.
Performances by 2Face Idibia and Kele Kele Love songstress, Tiwa Savage, were some of the most buzzed about stories but the one that truly got everyone excited was when top Nigerian actresses including Rita Dominic, Jenifa star, Funke Akindele-Oloyede, Shan George, Genevieve Nnaji, Joke Silva, Monalisa Chinda and Annie Macaulay-Idibia, strut the runway in stylish Indian and as well as sequined ensembles.
BN was on the scene at the event and we have all the runway photos –
Speaking firmly, if occasionally stumbling over words, the 88-year-old president accused the United States of "rushing to suck oil from Iraq" when it invaded the country in 2003 on the erroneous grounds that it possessed weapons of mass destruction.
He said the U.N. Security Council had allowed itself to be "abused" last year by authorizing "all necessary measures" - diplomatic code for military intervention - to protect civilians in Libya in a NATO operation that eventually toppled Gaddafi's government and led to his death at the hands of rebels.
Speaking with deliberate irony, Mugabe opened an address to the U.N. General Assembly by praising as "most glowing and most moving" a speech by U.S. President Barack Obama on Tuesday in which he rued Stevens' death.
Stevens and three other Americans were killed during what Washington has called a "terrorist" attack on the U.S. mission in Benghazi on September 11. The assault forced the evacuation of U.S. personnel from the eastern city that was the hub for the Libyan rebel movement.
"I am sure we were all moved, we all agree, that it was a tragic death indeed and we condemn it," said Mugabe, who has ruled Zimbabwe since independence from Britain in 1980 and is among Africa's longest-serving leaders.
"As we in spirit join the United States in condemning that death, shall the United States also join us in condemning that barbaric death of the head of state of Libya - Gaddafi? It was a loss, a great loss, to Africa, a tragic loss to Africa."
'A HUNT, A BRUTAL HUNT'
The Zimbabwean accused the United States and North Atlantic Treaty Organization, the 28-member Western security alliance whose air strikes helped Libyan rebels defeat Gaddafi's forces, of acting under false pretenses.
"The mission was strictly to protect civilians, but it turned out that there was a hunt, a brutal hunt, of Gaddafi and his family," Mugabe said. "In a very dishonest manner we saw ... Chapter 7 being used now as a weapon to rout a whole family."
Chapter 7 of the United Nations Charter allows the U.N. Security Council to authorize actions ranging from diplomatic and economic sanctions to military intervention.
"Bombs were ... thrown about in a callous manner and quite a good many civilians died. Was that the protection that they had sought under Chapter 7 of the Charter?
"So the death of Gaddafi must be seen in the same tragic manner as the death of Chris Stevens. We condemn both of them."
Mugabe, a long-standing critic of the West, is himself widely criticized for turning what was once one of Africa's strongest economies into a basket case and has been accused of hanging on to power through vote-rigging.
Other speakers at the U.N. General Assembly on Wednesday - notably Bolivia's leftist president, Evo Morales, and Iranian President Mahmoud Ahmadinejad - also criticized the United States for what they see as economic and political bullying.
A U.S. official had no immediate comment on Mugabe's remarks.
The Zimbabwean leader appeared to be in reasonable health despite questions about his wellbeing sparked by Zimbabwean media reports that he has traveled to Singapore eight times in the past year to seek medical attention.
He walked in an almost jaunty manner to and from the lectern in the General Assembly hall, where he read his speech from a written text.
African Movie Academy Awards [AMAA] nominations party took place last Saturday in Banjul, Gambia with Ghanaian actress Ama K. Abebrese grabbing a nomination for the second time in the ‘Best Actress’ in a lead role. Below are pictures of Ghanaian actress and previous winner of AMAA, Jackie Appiah in a pose with Nollywood actors; Osita Iheme (Pawpaw) and Chinedu Ikedieze (Aki).
The two diminutive actors from Nigeria appear to be having a nice time with the Ghanaian beauty. Lovely pictures for sure!
Saturday, November 26, 2011, it was indeed the day that the Lord most high had made for both Chinedu Ikedieze and his new wife to be Nneoma Hope Nwajah. Family, friends and well-wishers came together for the elaborate wedding of star actor, Chinedu Ikedieze (MFR) a.k.a Aki and Nneoma Hope Nwajah. Funny man Aki was so excited to get married again this time to a woman that care and cherish his love, height and career, most importantly a family but not for the fame or money.
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The traditional marriage was held at the St. Theresa’s Catholic Church Primary School field, Obolo, Isiala Mbano, Imo State.
The event attracted dignitaries from all walks of life including entertainers and politicos - the National President of the Actors Guild of Nigeria, (AGN) Segun Arinze, Uche jombo, Oby Edozien, Ejike Asiegbu, Osita Iheme (Pawpaw) among others.
The white wedding already dubbed, “A celebration of true and undying love” by the actor is expected to be held elaborately in Lagos on December 10.